I was
raised very conservatively, raised to believe in working hard for what you get
and that nothing in life is given to us for free.
At 16, I
got my first job at Edible Arrangements and from then on I’ve held a job ever
since.
Now, at 23-years-old,
I hold down 4 different jobs as I finish out my college education. I still hold
some of the values that I was raised with, but over the years I’ve developed my
own thoughts and opinions that are neither strictly conservative nor liberal.
I would
call myself a feminist because I believe women are equal to men and should have
the same rights that everyone else has, believe in standing up and making our
voice heard and I will always be thankful for the women who fought so hard to
get us to where we are today.
I consider myself to be a strong,
independent woman who is self-sufficient – a woman with goals for the future –
and one goal is to someday be a wife and mother.
Lately, the
word “feminist” has become skewed. I have felt many a time degraded, by other
women, when I tell them that I WANT to get married and have a family one-day.
I’m not
striving to be June Cleaver by any means (although I do love to wear dresses
and pearls from time-to-time;) I won’t be sitting at home with the kids all day,
waiting until my husband comes home to serve him dinner.
However,
the idea of waking up next to the man I love every day and one day creating a
life that has my eyes and his nose makes my heart flutter.
I also
dream of traveling the world and soaking up all the culture I can in one
lifetime, I dream of having my own photography studio and freelancing with
photography for magazines and papers. I have dreams, goals and aspirations –
and yes, being a wife is one of them.
Being a
feminist means many things for many different women. For some, it’s actively fighting
for rights, or going after your dreams and achieving them because you have the
freedom to do so, or maybe for others it’s raising a son to believe that women
are to be treated as equals and with respect or a teaching a daughter to grow
up realizing she can do whatever it is she sets her mind to.
So, here’s
to the others: to the feminists who feel like their voice isn’t heard because
your opinions may differ, to those who make a difference in their own way. The
war is not over, but we’ve come a long way and will continue.